Anger

Anger is a state of mind one gets into ranging from mild irritation to a blind rage. Having or showing it up to a controllable extent is productive but seeing it getting out of control causing problems at your workplace, home with your loved ones is a common occurrence resulting in making you feel like a slave to it.

Both external and internal events can be the causes for being angry. It could be a person such as your classmate, your coworker, your boss or a situation like a massive traffic jam, a delayed flight or even the harrowing or infuriating events.

 Naturally, people’s response to anger is with aggression, and the expression may accompany a stream of swearing words or a physical fight and in case of facing someone affected by it, we should be able to act defensively which strangely enough requires the same feelings to survive.

 This is also, on the other hand, a fact that we can’t go about taking it out on others or non-living objects in case of getting irritated or annoyed; the bounds we have in our society put limitations on such behavior.

 Generally speaking, there are three approaches while dealing with anger; to express, suppress or calm. The best way is to verbalize assertively which surely is the safest and healthiest way to let it all out. But this requires you to learn to make sure of the clarity about your needs, meeting them without causing offense to others. Sounding assertive mustn’t give an impression of being opinionated or adamant but respectful of others and yourself too.

 Suppression and then the redirection of angry feelings towards something positive or constructive indeed helps the person simmer down, but when the expression of the feelings is not well-stated, it gets back and causes hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

 Contained anger means more serious problems leading to passive-aggressive behavior (hitting back at others indirectly pointlessly). People being judgmental and cynical find it difficult to deal with their anger in a constructive way. No wonder they are the ones left alone in the end.

 

People being more hotheaded don’t express their angry feelings conspicuously resulting in being cantankerous and may remain unwell physically.

 Relaxation through deep breathing, repeating a calm word or some phrase such as “take it easy”, imagining a relaxing experience from your memory, muscle-calming and moderate exercise such as yoga, and listening to music, is not that hard to do.