My Team – The Onus on me (Episode # 3)

Obvious clue it is to the one at the time of making the first acquaintance or rather after eon would actually be more appropriate to put. “Good Lord! It is like a dream coming true to see you here”. Then a few words and meeting gets over, and arrival is anticipated as early as possible. The concerned authority finds it beneath them to contact probably for the third time as the individual despite being available decides to take a little longer avoiding jumping the gun. And the same stance puts the individual, to put it bluntly, in their bad books.

The intense pressure brings the person on board and attempts are made to convince him/her on terms and conditions unquestionably tailored even more in the favor of the company. The person fights bravely enough to get them around to some of his/her rightful demands and succeed in doing so to a considerable extent.

Breezing through the knock-out stages, the person manages to roll up. Looking and sounding increasingly confident, elfin-faced with, I guess, dark honey brown, a quick-on-the-uptake sort with unavoidably professional discretion.

Acclimatization to the environment doesn’t take much of him/her doings resulting in such mingling with the rest that her official persona doesn’t seem to put efforts to remain intact. Temperature being low with him/her being in close proximity can make him/her really uncomfortable which she can’t help complaining about out loud. 

After she/he gets elevenses, observed galvanized into action. However, a slot is squeezed in to make a small talk and then again gets on work. Coming up with brilliant propositions is her/his additional and remarkable attributes. Having the task done in cross-legged posture is her unique recognition and when this comfortable position doesn’t do much to speed the task up, she/he even fits it in when home.

Here I must accept the fact without any let or hindrance that he/she listens to me; my word of advice is always paid rapt attention to. He/she respects me not just because of me being the boss but because of him/her having been brought up in such a way.

I pray to the Almighty Allah to bless him/her whatever he/she wishes for!

My Team – The Onus on me (Episode # 2)

Comes the one now with an average height, medium-build, gracefully dusky skinned, unassuming but tends to rarely become dare-devil too, sociable and frank only when some time passes by or when you get to know her.

Undoubtedly, with the gift of the gab or rather voluble, esp. when it comes down to eating out with the colleagues, shopping, watching movies on cinema.

Evasive, secretive and yet in a quandary, she keeps sizing up the people around her trying who to share her feelings with to the extent that helps her simmer down. She also looks like she has tried and she’s got done in having done it. But at times, it also appears she still has it partially in her. She is seen giving it a try to take lesser time to trust people with a better sense of choice.

Outwardly, she issues out vibes of having no interest in others and expecting the same from them. I-keep-myself-to-myself sort of this person starts off and then comes the tea break. She is now ready to loosen up a bit and up for her informative contribution, and if it about the food of whatever the type it is, everybody just does one thing – listening.

At some point of time in the first half – not always, she can be gone just like that. And there she is – so engrossed talking on cell phone. Now, honestly don’t know that either it is her habit to keep moving around during a call or she just does so unknowingly.

Throughout the day, she stays almost the same. If approached for some assistance, she obliges. I think I am one of the fortunate ones she discusses different things. Things she needs my opinion about. I believe I’m with this team of mine for a purpose which I didn’t take much time to realize. I’m on it just as I am on everyday task execution.

I pray to Almighty Allah that she, a bird with her wings clipped, soon fly sky high!  

My Team – The Onus on me (Episode # 1)

Being in an IT firm, I happen to have a small group of people as my team; uniquely interesting in a way that the idea of making them known to the world seems doing it a favor. Funnily enough, it’s been a week since I have been pushing myself to sit and write about them. And finally, I am on it now but may not be able to work on all my cylinders.

My first fish to fry is P.H who will really take a while to be done with. An average built; umm no! somewhat better, as he still has the past influence of kickboxing, once he had the passion for, father of two cute girls, which doesn’t seem to be the reason for him to be that polite.

To me, he seems to be genetically programmed to sound as humble as one can think of, which I’m sure he must be proud of. The guy’s got a mum’s syndrome, taking care of the teammates in several ways like bringing things for them to have; such as, nowadays, peanuts with raw sugar in different shapes, biscuits of different types, chips and all that jazz, which is hard to go unnoticed.

The time he shows up at till he leaves, he hardly ever loses his composure even when going through some rough patch. His extrovert personality paves the way to make a genuinely friendly impression when even meeting somebody for the first time. I have never heard him speaking abrasively to anyone; he is equally polite to even those who are usually talked at.

During the work, he isn’t only focused he is assigned to but ready to be cooperative in whatever the manner it can be. Being overburdened with multiple tasks still doesn’t do any harm to his smile, which seems to be a permanent feature on his face.

P.H doesn’t have “NO” or any other negator when being asked for anything, and if he comes to know that anyone of us needs a helping hand, he comes forward. 

He has won the hearts of the people around him with his ways of doing things in a manner that taking him to task for a belatedly delivered job won’t be an easy thing to do. 

Here I would surely mention the element of defiance that I happened to note very recently in his tone of voice which was so subtle and indirect that I could hardly feel it. The very next thing was a quick fix that crossed my mind and in a day or so it was straightened out.

I find myself quite fortunate to have him in my team and hope he stays the same!

 

 2 Ways -Top It Or Laugh It Away

Being insulted or treated unceremoniously regardless of the reason has a conspicuous impact in most cases. The moment you feel offended, you have certain changes inside of your body – your heart starts pounding, your limbs or head goes numb, you may start shivering, you feel yourself burning inside, and have difficulty breathing. These are the most common reactions when confronted with such a situation.Let’s see the two possible fast-result-producing ways to get over it.

1. Giving them a dose of their own medicine: 

As a matter of fact, it is all vital for you to get back at whosoever tries translating you being gentlemanly into a pushover. Becoming a victim in a repetitive mode of humiliation makes you nothing but a sitting duck – an easy target for even a wimp. So, pluck up your courage when glared at and look vaguely as it reflects fearlessness and believe me, it is going to burn them up eventuating in shouting at you; just then reciprocate even at a higher pitch and make them realize that shouting won’t do any good but worsen. However, remember that you don’t have to get nasty even if the behavior of the person in front compels you to contribute some swearing words – Don’t just get into their dirty slanging match. Trust me, sooner or later, it is going to make them realize their mistake. Consequently, your reaction to their insulting you remains in their heads making them not being hard on you again. And if it stubbornly persists, you now know what to do.

2. Laughing it off: 

This is simply not a Mickey Mouse Job, but once you grow used to doing so, you remain immensely relieved. In the event of a humiliation, the first thing is to avoid the eye-contact with the person who is in fury or rage or else you can get affected and go out of control, which shouldn’t happen if you want to play it cool. Then start taking deep breaths as in order to resist, you desperately need to do that and when you find the person done with his shouting, say it out loud that you still have no hard feelings for him/her. Then probably cracking a really funny joke do the rest to crease them up. And if it doesn’t do the trick then maybe you should give some space to that person. After a while, which could be short, it becomes no difficulty getting over it.

Knowing Is Good But Not Knowing Isn't A Crime


A great applause to this common perception concerning English language speaking at a very high level of intelligence or skill which sadly draws a line of discrimination, leaving the unable ones being deprived of even the right to be socially acceptable. This shockingly discriminatory extent is reprehensible. Being unaware of this mere language is not an unforgivable sin, and we shouldn’t let it belittle us. However, this is not meant to oppose this medium of communication but the way we respond to it which is simply not worth it.

  Truly speaking, survival without it would be a very unrealistic approach when knowing the fact that half the population of the world speaks it and probably almost the whole world will be one day or another. All I want to pinpoint is to make this realistic thought known that the people of many non-English-speaking countries aren’t even bothered, at the least, to make serious mistakes or blunders, and funnily enough, don’t seem to be embarrassed at all. Then why us?

  

It is also observed that at the time of an interview, negation in various ways is the response to those who can’t put themselves across in the English Language. Even if the nature of a job, doesn’t have to do anything with it. For instance, an applicant to teach Urdu at a school or a college level must be fluent in English is absolutely preposterous.




Students approaching for the professional studies despite having had a mediocre sort of schooling and inadequate number of seats, have to go through a very risky procedure of an aptitude test where again the lacking in English proficiency is the case for the rejection of admission, and in the name of this aptitude test the institutions make a fortune which makes them justifiably corrupt educationists.


In the initial stages of the studies, sadly speaking, teachers in both governments and private universities are not even remotely interested to design a sort of a short course on their own, rather than hopelessly depending on the concerned authorities, covering the basic areas in the English grammar enabling students to be able to at least understand the lectures in English. Not only Writing but presenting anything before an audience is a nightmare to students. Here I’m at a loss to understand that are these teachers blind to the fact that students coming from an average educational background, no matter which one particularly of them they are from, are unimaginably bad at English Language even after spending a decade at their so-called grammar schools. Someone should really ask them that what they do to the students spending the whole blazing decade.


This worn out practice doesn’t seem to change. It looks like that person hailing from the middle class will always be left on his own to learn this way of communication; the schooling is just not good enough to help them learn it. No wonder after learning English as a subject for more than a decade when one gets a job, they are compelled to run to the English Language Institutes__ the only chance of survival. So after a trying day, when they are supposed to be on their way back home, they are headed towards these institutes which are playing a very vital role in helping such people learn it.
Now this would be another issue to say how many of them make it. Obviously, the chances are slim for a guy having been hectic from dawn to dusk to be able to give rapt attention to something he has been fearing his entire life.


I would just want people being unaware and frightened of this Language to bear it in their minds that it’s just a Language. So, you don’t have to be so afraid that you can’t even give it a try. We should learn it from many out there speaking it very wrongly with an amazing amount of confidence. Commonest complaint of the lack of environment can be addressed if we ourselves try to speak it at our homes. It is also a fact that people usually opt for short cuts like books easily available on the markets claiming to have such self-study programs that can surely help you speak to a great extent and the best part is -- only in 6 months. This claim is not all that surprising, but the people getting ready to read them. But as a matter of fact, this turns out to be a futile attempt as well. This is something that requires a constant process of learning; something like a routine under some guidance in which you have basic structures of Applied Grammar and along with this you have people before you so that you can push yourself to see what happens if you are to express yourself.


As I already mentioned above, there could be many other ways to have improvement in our verbal communication. For a thorough look into it, follow the link.
http://www.skola.co.uk/tips-improving-english.html