Is swearing really any Good?

Bumping into a corner table, stumbling over a stone on the way or missing a bus, usually, are the situations in which we utter a profane or obscene expression. If we were to give a reason why we do that, we would probably be stumped for a valid reason. However, we’ve got to know why they come so spontaneously and why we are so frequent to choose them. We need to understand that swear words (that can have plenty of other socially acceptable alternatives) are not appropriate at all; they are just unacceptable. Their use triggers swift arousal at a certain level depending on its accentuality. This syntactic liberty is not only possible in English Language but all the rest humans put their thoughts in.

There is no escaping the fact that initially, it is due to the habitual practice of our own family members, be it nuclear or extended family. In an extended family, you may experience the frequency more as there could be more contributors to making the environment pretty conducive for its casual use. Initially, it is slow. You just hear them and for some time they remain in your head, then with the passage of time, you let them go out loud boldly and shamelessly. You feel cool to see them creating such a rhetorical effect. You then practice it outdoors, spoiling your mates and get even motivated upon compliments. Their use is not only to simmer down the rage; it is common when you are hanging out with your friends. Among peers, it is likely to lead a slanging match that could soon turn into a physical fight.

Strangely enough, girls these days have ever-increasing tendency to use swear words not any less than the boys and they don’t have to get into the flap to utter them; they do it just like that.  A survey carried out by the Social Research Council, Lancaster University and Cambridge University Press found that women swear more than men and are 10 times more likely to say s***. Girls being outdoors either for education or to earn their livelihood find swearing really effective in making a scary impression of them, making people, esp. the opposite gender feel hesitant to mess with them. However, this makes them have a bad reputation as well which they take as a compliment as in the rhetorical toolkit it is the chisel that gets them amazingly precise effect.

Talking about females in this context mustn’t give an impression of men having some legal right to use swear words, we all must feel uncomfortable not only when we spit some bad word out but when we hear such a thing. Do we really have to train our girls to use swear words to make themselves heard or to get them ready for the mainstream world outdoors just because some stupid westerner holding a Ph.D. in human psychology claims that swearing emboldens you enough to get your things done? Not to mention, swearing is beneficial to help you increase your ability to endure pain. Researchers also say that those who swear have comparatively a more fluent vocabulary than those who don’t swear. The question is, “Are we ready to replace the moral beliefs with this scientific crap in character building of our generation?”

Dealing with Workplace Toxins

How cheerful ambiance it would be if it entailed friendly talks, free-flowing gossips, horsing around, contests, laughter, and a lot more fun with merriment. You must have just thought about your school days, can’t you? But if it brings a cloud over your head your office within; it is really a serious issue. You would probably think of yourself a professional in an environment of an educated and mature workforce with your school days long gone; however, finding a workplace with almost the same features gets you back there again.

You have no idea about when you can become the subject of your colleagues. They start talking behind your back and asking to favor them in a number of ways like in an argument or helping someone look good—but only at the cost of someone else. If you don’t remain heedful of whatever goes around you, you could be the next victim of their diabolical activities.

Trust me you don’t want to stop even acknowledging someone while walking past them as it would portray you negatively and in no time you would pick up bad vibes from that specific person. This is not all at all, the rest have to contribute too from their end with their unasked for expert opinions.

It is thought to be difficult to resist talking about your superior or coworkers while you are in office. However, people don’t seem to try to stop themselves from doing so. They talk about someone and when they are caught doing so by the person in the question, it comes down like hell on them. They then try hard to recall what was wrong about what they said regarding that person and then realize that it is just they couldn’t manage to put up the right gesture to deceive.

Furthermore, try not to respond to a provocative email until you are out of the frustration triggered by it. The best way to deal with it is to wait it out or till your composure is recovered. If you receive an email having elements of dissatisfaction or annoyance, and you think that an email reply is not going to fix it, thrashing it out would be a sensible idea.

If someone isn’t in the good books of your boss, you might want to take a dim view of them believing it to be helpful in building rapport and give you a much-needed boost. However, you never know what your say about a such-and-such person would get you into trouble as none other than your boss will use it for his ulterior motives without caring a tad about what it will cost you. When you take part in such negativity, it befalls you. When you help misrepresent someone at your workplace, you make the way in the list of those waiting to be treated similarly. In this game, we all lose but the house.

Instead, stay focused on playing a pleasantly productive role by keeping a record of everything; be it emails, daily activities, meetings, and personal interactions. Trust me; the rest against you are neck-deep busy doing the same thing. Secondly, don’t make the mistake of being the office recluse yourself; build up your connections instead. The sooner, the better it is to create a livelier, more positive and productive version of yourself, employ it to get the desired results. If you see someone else being degraded or discouraged, be empathetic to them and play your role in making a better environment for all irrespective of their status.